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Do you appreciate your parents, the way they deserve to be appreciated?

Appreciate

Do you appreciate your parents, the way they deserve to be appreciated? Are there days that go by where you don’t speak to your parents (in person, on the phone, via WhatsApp or even via email)? Are there times where you share exciting/important news with others first, before your parents? Are there times when you pop in to visit them, but then cut the visit short because you had other plans with other people? I know I am guilty of this, and if you are too, then this post is for you.

Appreciate your parents
My parents do not wish to be featured on the internet, so I have blurred the image

When Ammaarah was born, I discovered a new level of appreciation for my parents. I was taken aback at the level of (eternal) commitment required for raising a baby, it hit me like a brick in the face. But what hit me harder was the fact that my parents did the same for me, for so many years, and that I easily took that for granted. It was only after Ammaarah was born, that I truly learnt the meaning of ‘I could never repay you for what you have done (and continue to do) for me throughout my life’.

Appreciate your parents

Then Aqeelah was born and, as I had hoped, I instantly fell in love with her. I was granted the ‘love at first sight’ moment that I had made so much dua for. But strangely enough, and very unexpectedly, I also fell more deeply in love with Ammaarah. Right in front of my eyes, instantly and immediately, Ammaarah became a new person. She was no longer my little baby, but rather a toddler, she grew up in a matter of seconds. And it was only then that I truly learnt the meaning of ‘time passes by so quickly’.

When Aqeelah was born

Just a few weeks after Aqeelah was born, I began to experience the overwhelming feeling of ‘I don’t know what I would do without my children’. And this feeling grows stronger as each day that I am granted passes me by. (May we all be granted another day IA!) Often, I find myself going into a flat panic at the thought of something happening to them, after which I have to take a moment and tell myself to just relax because I cannot control everything (even though I wish with all my heart that I could!). I wish to be around them constantly, I wish to know about their every moment and I wish to experience there every adventure together with them.

This is however not possible. I do not possess the ability to provide them with everything they need to go through life on this earth and there will be a time where I will have to let go and allow them to live their own lives. And I accept that, I promise I do.

However, having said that, I can only wish that they would always be a part of my daily life. I wish that I would at least have the opportunity to communicate with them every day. I wish that they would at least feel comfortable enough to share exciting news with me first, before sharing with friends (as I am often guilty of). I wish that they would set aside enough time to spend with me, on a regular basis (however often regular may be for us). I wish, I wish, I wish, the list goes on and on (there is so much that I make dua for – may all our dua’s be accepted IA), but most importantly, I wish to feel included, to feel important to them, and to feel loved.

And then just the other day, I was hit by an epiphany and it has been bothering me immensely – I do not appreciate my parents the way they deserve to be treated.

My feelings were turned around, and I wondered how my parents felt. Was I present enough in their lives? Do my actions make them feel included, important or loved? Because I certainly am guilty of those questions that I posed above, and that surely cannot make them feel included, important or loved! There are days that go by where I don’t speak to them. I mean life is just so busy right? I wake up early to go to work and then work consumes my day and then when I return home it is straight into kids, supper, husband, blogging, treatmesweetlie, and even some tv. But is that a good enough excuse for not sparing 5 minutes to pick up the phone and say ‘Hello, how are you, and have a good night’? How is it possible, out of a full day, that I sometimes do not make the time to call them? My heart is absolutely shattered by this thought. Everything that I wish for from my children, I am not reciprocating to my own parents. (What type of example am I to my children?)

For me, personally, this is not the way my parents should be treated. They deserve better and they most certainly deserve more of my time. For if it weren’t for them, where would I have been today? Regardless of how far I am from them, regardless of whether they are on a different continent, regardless of whether I had a 14 hour work day, regardless of everything and anything, I must at least make the time to speak to them, every day.

Alhamd, I am blessed to still have both my parents with me on this earth, and I am utterly grateful that these thoughts have crossed my mind now. I am grateful that I have been granted the opportunity to make a change now, before it is too late. And if you are guilty of some of the things I have just mentioned, then I urge you to please consider changing your actions now, before it is too late. Because regardless of whatever may have happened or is happening in your life, we have only been granted one set of parents and we wouldn’t be where we are today without them. So if by the time you read this part of this post, please stop and pick up the phone and call your parents (if you haven’t done so already).

May we all be granted this opportunity IA. May we all take the time to appreciate our parents, the way they deserve to be treated, IA!

Thanks for reading and feel free to share your thoughts with me.

xxx

Radhia

(Please note that I, by no means, wish to exclude any type of parent from this post – whether it be adoptive parents or single parents. My post refers to both my parents, as I have been lucky enough to have been granted both to be a part of my life.)

 

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What if I love Porschie #2 more?

What if I love Porsche #2 more?

It seems to be normal, that when baby number 2 is on his or her way, that a mother would fear that she would not be able to love baby number 2 as much as baby number 1. Sound familiar? Well for me, it is somewhat different, because my fear is completely  the opposite! What if I love Porschie #2 more?

You see, I had a really rough start to motherhood. The delivery did not go as planned, there were epidural complications causing 2 weeks of intense recovery (read more about my birth story here), I struggled with breastfeeding for at least 8 weeks, Ammaarah had gas and wouldn’t stop crying, I most certainly suffered from post natal depression, and and and… In hind site, I absolutely know that I truly was my own worst enemy and it was mainly self inflicted, but regardless, I experienced those things. And those things unfortunately caused me to not love my baby from the moment I saw her – you know, that ‘love at first sight’ emotion you are supposed to feel when you finally meet your little one? Well not for me. I think I only fell in love with her after a few months. I mean, of course I loved her, my maternal instincts would not allow anything else, but I did not feel that unexplainable feeling of warm custard flowing through every part of your body – that feeling of love – until months later!

Hence my fear…what if I love Porschie #2 more, as early as from the start? What if I am granted that blessing of ‘love at first sight’ with Porschie #2? What if I feel that unexplainable feeling of warm custard from the get go?

I have no doubt that I will love my children equally – as best as I know how. I have no doubt that I will do my utmost best for them, always. I have no doubt that I will treat them as individuals, but all equal in terms of being my children. But again, what if I fall in love with Porschie #2 earlier? Wouldn’t that already mean that I was treating my children differently? (My heart just cannot deal with the guilt!)

Almost 19 weeks now (alhamdulillah), and I can finally start to feel Porschie #2 in my belly. Those early feelings of flutters in your belly (when you are not quite sure if it is a fart or not), and then that confirming feeling of little pops in your belly. Especially when you sit quietly and concentrate on the absolute blessing growing in your belly! I can finally feel Porschie #2 and I have already fallen in love…but that guilt has unfortunately begun!

Am I crazy, to feel this way? Or is this perhaps normal? I have no idea, but one thing I know for sure, is that each pregnancy is most certainly different and that has been proven to me already! I can only but pray that I am granted with another successful 21 weeks of pregnancy and be granted with the greatest blessing of a baby number 2 (and a healthy baby) IA!

 

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Kidz Season Table Mountain giveaway worth R900! (Closed)

Table Mountain Giveaway

It is somehow always rewarding to share first time experiences with your little one. Whether it be their first tooth, first word, first knee scrape or their first visit to one of the seven wonders of nature, there is always some sort of sensation that comes with it that is absolutely indescribable. And that is exactly how I felt when the Table Mountain Cableway team hosted us for their first ever Cableway Kidz Season Meetup.

Table Mountain Giveaway

 

Table Mountain Cableway is currently running an awesome special this winter season and it is all themed around kidz. Two children under the age of 18 ride for free with every return adult ticket purchased from the Lower Cable Station (how awesome is that!). So if you are planning your schedules for the upcoming winter school holidays, be sure to add this one to you to-do-list.

Table Mountain Kidz Season Special

Now I kid you not, I freaked out multiple times during the days leading up to the Kidz Season Meetup at the thought of PP stumbling and rolling off the mountain! PP is at the stage where running is the only option and it is becoming more and more challenging to take her into crowded areas.  I truly was a nervous wreck as we made our way up the revolving cable car. I am fortunate enough to have been up Table Mountain before, but never did I consider the element of child safety up until it was time to take PP up the mountain.

But when we arrived at the top, I was pleasantly surprised to once again realise the pure beauty of the Almighty’s creation. Much like the name, it was like an open wide field of unstable cobblestones that awaited us. Barrier walls and wire fencing surrounded us, clearly marking pathways that should be taken. Demarcated areas of ‘no entry’ was clearly identifiable, making me feel comfortable enough to allow PP to wonder alone a few steps ahead of us. We of course had to keep a constant eye on her as accidents can happen at any time, but my heart was immediately placed at ease knowing that there was plenty of space for her to wander around without having to come close to the edge of the mountain.

Seeing the pure joy on her face while she explored a never before seen territory was a memory that would last a lifetime! This experience with Princess Porschie was truly priceless, and I would highly recommend that you do the same.

Table Mountain Giveaway

 

If you are planning to visit Table Mountain this winter, be sure to take heed of the following:

  • Extra layers of clothing – As we approach our winter days, be sure to pack extra layers of clothing. It is extra chilly up there, and wind can sometimes be unpredictable. Be sure to keep updated with the Table Mountain website for regular updates on the cableway activity, including whether Table Mountain has been declared open, the temperature and even the waiting time for the cable car for the trip up and down.
  • Pack lightly – The Table Mountain Cafe has everything you will need to keep your tummies filled, so pack lightly so that you may enjoy exploring without any baggage.
  • Comfortable shoes – Be sure to wear comfortable shoes like sneakers or boots with rubber soles. Even though the top of Table Mountain is a level plateau, there are many steps and uneven pathways that make treading uneasy for little ones. Non-slippery comfortable shoes are ideal for this adventure.
  • Fully charged camera or cell phone – The views from the top of Table Mountain are breathtakingly spectacular. There will be moments that you would want to cherish for a lifetime, so be ready to capture them. We only had our cell phones with us, but take a look at the gorgeous pictures we were able to capture!
  • Lots of energy – To explore the mountain and run after your kids as they bask in their freedom!
  • Cableway Kidz Season deal details – Remember the deal details: two kids under the age of 18 ride for free with every adult return ticket purchased from the Lower Cable Station; the special is valid on weekends, public holidays and school holidays and the special ends on 30 September 2016. (Please bear in mind that the Table Mountain Cableway will be closed for annual maintenance between 25 July 2016 and 7 August 2016)

Table Mountain

Table Mountain Giveaway

Table Mountain View

Table Mountain

Giveaway

Okay, and now for the part that you have all been waiting for – the giveaway!

Table Mountain Cableway is giving away a Table Mountain family experience worth over R900 to one of you beautiful people. This includes two adult rider tickets (worth R225 each), two children’s tickets (worth R110 each) and a R250 Table Mountain Cafe’ voucher for you and your family to enjoy!

All you need to do is follow the 5 simple rules below:

  1. Subscribe to my blog (see on the right side of my web page – remember this is a two-step process, you have to confirm your subscription via the confirmation link that is sent to your email)
  2. Like/follow Treatmesweetlie on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  3. Like/follow Table Mountain Aerial Cableway on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  4. Share the link to this article on either Facebook or Twitter by clicking share buttons below
  5. Lastly, be sure to come back to this blog post and comment with the word ‘done’ to confirm your entry to win with a family experience with Table Mountain.

Terms and conditions

  • The prize will be awarded to the first correct entry drawn at random. Failure to follow all the steps will result in disqualification.
  • The winner will be selected at random by me, and will be final. No correspondence will be entered into.
  • Failure to claim the prize within 5 working days after the announcement will result in forfeiture of the prize and the next correct entry drawn will obtain the prize.
  • The competition is open to South Africans only.
  • The competition closes at midnight on Monday, 6 June 2016. 
  • Winners will be announces within 5 working days on my social media accounts.

xxx

Radhia

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Bear with me as I DIY my own website

DIY my own website

DIY my own website

DIY my own website? Impossible I literally said, because I always envisaged having to spend thousands of Rands to employ the services of an expert that would build my website for me. But after being nudged in the right direction by a fellow mommy blogger, I realised that it wasn’t AS bad as I imagined. I am learning as I go along – googling, YouTube-ing, calling a friend – and it’s been an interesting ride so far.

Some of you may have noticed that change is currently happening to the blog in terms of appearance and content. I have been working really hard on the website over the past couple of days and I must admit that it has been stressful, self motivating and frustrating all at the same time!

DIY-ing your own website is no easy task, especially when you are no fundi in IT. Things like coding and SEO and widgets and product pages totally freak me out! I mean search engine optimization is one of THE most important parts of your website and I know nothing of the topic (eeek!). Thank goodness for WordPressGoogle and YouTube, as I would never had been able to do it without the use of those services.

There are so many parts that are still incomplete which will require a considerable amount of time to figure out. And unfortunately, being a working mom means that there is no time, so I have no choice but to be patient. I keep telling myself that everything takes time, and this is just one that will take a little bit longer than expected.

There are several aspects to DIY-ing your own website that are frustrating (much like that itch on your back that you just cannot reach!), and the following are my top most frustrating aspects at the moment (they change all the time!):

  • Colours (oh the darn colours!!!) –  I can’t seem to figure out how to change the light glaringly bright blueish colour that appears on every page and in every post that is so darn difficult to read/see on-screen. I can scream! (SOS!)
  • A Blog page versus a Home page – which is better? I currently have blog listed on the menu, which will most probably be changed to home, which will then probably be changed back because I could not decide on which was better. (What is it supposed to be?)
  • My online shop – time time time! SO much time is required to create an online shop that portrays the best of your products. (I am totally out of my league here.) There are so many products to list, and that means that they all need pictures. Which comes to my next point.
  • Pictures! – can you hear me screaming? Because let’s be honest, the pictures taken with my iPhone is quite a joke! (SOS – calling all photographers, I need your help)
  • And worst of all, when you have bad wifi reception – everything takes SO much more longer when this happens!

But despite all the many little things that are bothering me and all the hundreds of things that still need to be done, I am so proud of what has been achieved so far. Have you browsed the latest Treatmesweetlie website lately? I think it looks amazing! There are still loads more to do, so please bear with me for the changes you are about to see over the next few days (or weeks perhaps)!

And just in case you are deciding to DIY your own website, here are a few of my top tips to help you get you through it:

  • Be patient
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions 
  • Google everything – the answers are out there. Somewhere someone was trying to do the same thing, they figured it out and was nice enough to post tutorials for people like you and I
  • Make sure you use a service provider that is well-known for allowing and supporting DIY websites – much like WordPress
  • Be patient, unless this is your full-time job, it is not going to happen overnight
  • Stay focused and stick to your plan – it becomes time-consuming and frustrating when you switch between certain packages or plug-ins because you were uncertain of what you were trying to achieve  (start, delete, start another, delete, revert back to the first one – I caught myself out on this one far too many times!). Avoid as far as possible
  • Be patient!
  • Remain confident – techno stuff can be very complicated, but keep believing that you can do anything you place your mind to!

Thank you to all you lovely people for following along with me through my journey of Treatmesweetlie. If you have any suggestions regarding aspects of my website that are just not great, feel free to contact me and let me know. This website is undoubtedly my space, but it is also my space for you to enjoy!

xxx

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WIN with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos (closed)

Win with kids emporium and shooshoos

(Bear with me, I am going to do a little bit of a blog post first before we get into the nitty-gritty of how you can win!)

Win with kids emporium and shooshoos

Not too long ago I spent an inspiring and motivational morning with a room full of amazingly talented women at the Kids Emporium first ever bloggers breakfast. Each and every women in the room had an inspiring and successful story to share, and the most important lesson I learnt from that, was that being you was a success on its own.

Win with Kids Emporium

Lauren De Swardt, the founder and owner of Kids Emporium, shared her success story with us. It was absolutely inspiring and came at a time when I needed it the most. My most recent posts have been themed around how difficult the past several weeks have been for me, where work commitments literally sucked up all of my time like a dry sponge reaching a puddle of water and how being a working mother sucks sometimes. Lauren’s story motivated me to push through the challenging time I found myself in and to remain true to myself and my passion.

Lauren de Swardt and Radhia Sattar

Now I don’t want to bore you with a word for word paraphrase of her story, as there are many articles and interviews you could find on the internet, but I do wish to share two bits of her story that resonated most with me. (I promise to be brief, as I know you are dying to know how you can win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos!)

“Work from home”

Did you know that the Kids Emporium Head Office is run from a loft studio in Lauren’s home?! She explained that her work life balance was an important part of her life and working from home assisted her in achieving this. She even has a recurring meeting booked in her diary, every day at 3pm, for homework time with her kids.

Now that is a dream come true for any working mother – to be able work in an environment that is conducive to being a mother. For many of us, our careers would not allow for us to work from home. And that is okay. As long as we work in an environment where everyone understands the needs of a mother/parent. I may not be able to give up my day job, but I strive to build a relationship with my employer where the needs of a mother can be understood without the sacrifice of any work commitments.

“The sale of my first store was one of my biggest challenges”

She described the sale of her first Franchise store as one of her biggest challenges. It took months of hard work, perseverance and lots of convincing, only to feel as though she should give up at least 100 times because the potential buyer was just not budging. But the sale eventually happened, and now, over 10 years later with more than 20 stores and an online store, she explained how easily a Kids Emporium Franchise store could be sold within a few minutes. Kids Emporium has also recently announced that they will be opening up their doors in the UK soon!

Success clearly does not come easily! This is something I need to remind myself of daily. It takes hard work, determination and perseverance to succeed in anything you put your mind to, and it takes time to build your brand. I may not be the best mother to Ammaarah, or the best wife to Zieyaad, or the best female accountant, or the best mommy blogger, or the best mompreneur, or the best daughter, sister, friend or or or or or the one hundred things we find ourselves doing or wanting to be! But I know that I am best at being me (for myself and my creator).

This is me. This is the life that has been granted to me by the Almighty. And no matter what comes my way, I need to keep reminding myself that as long as I have tried my best, I have succeeded.

How you can win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos

One of the perks of attending this event was the customised Treatmesweetlie specific goodie bag I received. Not only did I receive something for Ammaarah but I also received something that I am able to share with you!

I have been struggling to find shoes for Ammaarah for these awkward-weather autumn days. You know, those days where it is too cold to wear sandals yet too hot to wear boots? Now the fairies who organised this bloggers breakfast must have done their homework, because this gift came at the perfect time – a pink and silver pair of mini moccs from Shooshoos (it’s called the ‘Icing Sugar’)! There is just enough coverage for the warmer days and just enough room to wear with stockings in the colder days. I cannot wait to style them on PP. And if you think these are adorable, you have to visit the Shooshoos online shop, their range is impressively extensive!

Win with Shoosoos

What I love about Shooshoos is that they are proudly South African, competitive in their prices, easily accessible and offer a wide range of cute and trendy leather shoes. Their online size guide makes online shopping that much easier!

And now for the fun part – I get to share some Shooshoos with you too! Kids Emporium and Shooshoos have given you the chance to win a R200 Shooshoos voucher to purchase a pair of shoes from the Shooshoos online shop, and the best part is that delivery in South Africa is free!

All you need to do is follow the 4 simple steps below and you will be entered into the lucky draw to win:

  1. Subscribe to my blog (see on the right side of my web page – remember, this is a two-step process, you have to confirm your subscription via the confirmation link that is sent to your email)
  2. Like/follow Treatmesweetlie on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  3. Share the link to this article on either Facebook or Twitter by clicking share buttons below
  4. Lastly, be sure to come back to this blog post and comment with the word ‘done’ to confirm your entry to win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos.

Terms and conditions

  • The prize will be awarded to the first correct entry drawn at random. Failure to follow all the steps will result in disqualification.
  • The winner will be selected at random by me, and will be final. No correspondence will be entered into.
  • Failure to claim the prize within 10 working days after the announcement will result in forfeiture of the prize and the next correct entry drawn will obtain the prize.
  • This competition is open to South Africans only.
  • This competition closes at midnight on Friday, 13 May 2016.

xxx

Radhia

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Lesson learnt from my 17 month old: forgive easily and with no regret 

I captured this picture today while Ammaarah was enjoying the cool sea breeze and fresh air. She was mesmerized by the sound of the waves splashing against the breaker and the sight of the water sprinkling close to her feet.

forgive easily and with no regret
Today was a good day in the land of my motherhood, because I got to spend the majority of it with my little princess. We took her for a walk/ride with her favourite bike along the beach front. Not only did the fresh air take up all of her energy causing her to fall asleep easily and early this evening (definitely doing that again!), but it also allowed me to breathe in something other than work. It was a much needed break, a moment to just stand (while the magnificent sun sets behind you) watching in awe the maraculous development of your child.

I learnt a valuable lesson today, something that I wish to adopt in my every day lifestyle, and that is to forgive easily and with no regret.

After about an hour of my undivided attention to Ammaarah, (no rushing, no stressing, no to-do-list running through my mind, no social media, no nothing other than Ammaarah) she was mine again. The kisses and hugs and screaming my name quickly returned. She forgave me for my absenteeism without such as a whim of any regret. The past several weeks where I felt like a failure as mother was forgotten by her. All she knew was that I was there at that very moment and that was enough.

It was evident that she understood that some parts of life are not easy, which is okay, and that it is not about looking towards the past but looking at the now and at the very moment you find yourself in.

We tend to easily get caught up in our feelings when we have heated arguments with our loved ones, causing us to hold grudges against them for a few days and even sometimes giving them the silent treatment for a few days. After a little while we forget about the moment we find ourselves in, and we chose to look to the past and replay that argument in our minds, causing us to feel more hurt and more upset. I for sure am guilty of that! But why are we doing that? Are we perhaps not missing the point?

Life is short and it is uncertain. I may not have said the words ‘I am sorry for not spending time with you’, but my actions spoke louder than those words and that was enough for her. Perhaps hearing the utterance of the words ‘I am sorry’ is therefore sometimes not needed to forgive.

I hope to remember this moment with PP each and every time I find myself at fault having an argument with my loved ones. May we always take heed of the moments we find ourselves in, and and may we learn to forgive easily and without regret. Because surely our lives will be so much more pleasant if we did that!

xxx

PS. It was slightly chilly today,  but thanks to Pick n Pay Clothing,  PP was kept snugly warm by her hooded sleeveless puffer jacket. It is definitely one of my favourite winter buys thus far!

father and daughter unbreakable bond