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Plans – what does that even mean? 

Treatmesweetlie

Right about now, I am laying in bed, in a very awkward position, with my little girl crawled up in the curve of the back of my neck. This is how she decided to fall asleep this evening.

 And I already know what you are thinking…what happened to sleep training where she is meant to fall asleep by herself? Mommy guilt happened, that’s what!

It’s been a rough couple of months. Work has been extremely challenging and demanding, which has resulted in working late on many nights and coming home after Ammaarah has already fallen asleep. So when I am home during bedtime, I take advantage of laying with her while she falls asleep. I’m trying my very best to make up for lost time. 

Now what has that done to our routine? Well, I actually don’t care. 

Routine has always been a very important part of my life. I’m the type of person that likes structure and a plan and then most of all actually following that plan. And when things don’t go according to plan, I normally have a mild freak out session! This is one of the biggest lessons I have learnt since becoming a mother – nothing goes according to plans anymore. It was really difficult for me to comprehend at first, but I think I’ve gotten used to it. 

Unfortunately the passed couple of months has proven that other plans are better than mine. And you know what, that’s okay. Our routine has been kicked to the curb and overtime we will build a new routine. 

Together with so many other things, I’ve been neglecting my blog for the longest time now, only because spare time has really been limited lately. Every free moment I have had has been spent with my family. I’ve had to reprioritise everything I do outside of work, and unfortunately my blog came up as last on the list. I suppose that is what life is about, making the most of every moment, always ensuring that you spend your time on the things that matter the most to you. 

And that is what I love most about my blog…there are no obligations. My blog is meant to depict the happenings of my life, and it truly has, because lately, there has just not been enough time for everything and nothing has gone according to my plan. 

Motherhood has truly taught me to have the utmost faith in the Almighty, because plans from above are superior to any plans I may have! 

Here’s to taking living life one moment at a time, living everyday to the best that I know how…

xxx

Radhia 

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Kidz Season Table Mountain giveaway worth R900! (Closed)

Table Mountain Giveaway

It is somehow always rewarding to share first time experiences with your little one. Whether it be their first tooth, first word, first knee scrape or their first visit to one of the seven wonders of nature, there is always some sort of sensation that comes with it that is absolutely indescribable. And that is exactly how I felt when the Table Mountain Cableway team hosted us for their first ever Cableway Kidz Season Meetup.

Table Mountain Giveaway

 

Table Mountain Cableway is currently running an awesome special this winter season and it is all themed around kidz. Two children under the age of 18 ride for free with every return adult ticket purchased from the Lower Cable Station (how awesome is that!). So if you are planning your schedules for the upcoming winter school holidays, be sure to add this one to you to-do-list.

Table Mountain Kidz Season Special

Now I kid you not, I freaked out multiple times during the days leading up to the Kidz Season Meetup at the thought of PP stumbling and rolling off the mountain! PP is at the stage where running is the only option and it is becoming more and more challenging to take her into crowded areas.  I truly was a nervous wreck as we made our way up the revolving cable car. I am fortunate enough to have been up Table Mountain before, but never did I consider the element of child safety up until it was time to take PP up the mountain.

But when we arrived at the top, I was pleasantly surprised to once again realise the pure beauty of the Almighty’s creation. Much like the name, it was like an open wide field of unstable cobblestones that awaited us. Barrier walls and wire fencing surrounded us, clearly marking pathways that should be taken. Demarcated areas of ‘no entry’ was clearly identifiable, making me feel comfortable enough to allow PP to wonder alone a few steps ahead of us. We of course had to keep a constant eye on her as accidents can happen at any time, but my heart was immediately placed at ease knowing that there was plenty of space for her to wander around without having to come close to the edge of the mountain.

Seeing the pure joy on her face while she explored a never before seen territory was a memory that would last a lifetime! This experience with Princess Porschie was truly priceless, and I would highly recommend that you do the same.

Table Mountain Giveaway

 

If you are planning to visit Table Mountain this winter, be sure to take heed of the following:

  • Extra layers of clothing – As we approach our winter days, be sure to pack extra layers of clothing. It is extra chilly up there, and wind can sometimes be unpredictable. Be sure to keep updated with the Table Mountain website for regular updates on the cableway activity, including whether Table Mountain has been declared open, the temperature and even the waiting time for the cable car for the trip up and down.
  • Pack lightly – The Table Mountain Cafe has everything you will need to keep your tummies filled, so pack lightly so that you may enjoy exploring without any baggage.
  • Comfortable shoes – Be sure to wear comfortable shoes like sneakers or boots with rubber soles. Even though the top of Table Mountain is a level plateau, there are many steps and uneven pathways that make treading uneasy for little ones. Non-slippery comfortable shoes are ideal for this adventure.
  • Fully charged camera or cell phone – The views from the top of Table Mountain are breathtakingly spectacular. There will be moments that you would want to cherish for a lifetime, so be ready to capture them. We only had our cell phones with us, but take a look at the gorgeous pictures we were able to capture!
  • Lots of energy – To explore the mountain and run after your kids as they bask in their freedom!
  • Cableway Kidz Season deal details – Remember the deal details: two kids under the age of 18 ride for free with every adult return ticket purchased from the Lower Cable Station; the special is valid on weekends, public holidays and school holidays and the special ends on 30 September 2016. (Please bear in mind that the Table Mountain Cableway will be closed for annual maintenance between 25 July 2016 and 7 August 2016)

Table Mountain

Table Mountain Giveaway

Table Mountain View

Table Mountain

Giveaway

Okay, and now for the part that you have all been waiting for – the giveaway!

Table Mountain Cableway is giving away a Table Mountain family experience worth over R900 to one of you beautiful people. This includes two adult rider tickets (worth R225 each), two children’s tickets (worth R110 each) and a R250 Table Mountain Cafe’ voucher for you and your family to enjoy!

All you need to do is follow the 5 simple rules below:

  1. Subscribe to my blog (see on the right side of my web page – remember this is a two-step process, you have to confirm your subscription via the confirmation link that is sent to your email)
  2. Like/follow Treatmesweetlie on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  3. Like/follow Table Mountain Aerial Cableway on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  4. Share the link to this article on either Facebook or Twitter by clicking share buttons below
  5. Lastly, be sure to come back to this blog post and comment with the word ‘done’ to confirm your entry to win with a family experience with Table Mountain.

Terms and conditions

  • The prize will be awarded to the first correct entry drawn at random. Failure to follow all the steps will result in disqualification.
  • The winner will be selected at random by me, and will be final. No correspondence will be entered into.
  • Failure to claim the prize within 5 working days after the announcement will result in forfeiture of the prize and the next correct entry drawn will obtain the prize.
  • The competition is open to South Africans only.
  • The competition closes at midnight on Monday, 6 June 2016. 
  • Winners will be announces within 5 working days on my social media accounts.

xxx

Radhia

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Bear with me as I DIY my own website

DIY my own website

DIY my own website

DIY my own website? Impossible I literally said, because I always envisaged having to spend thousands of Rands to employ the services of an expert that would build my website for me. But after being nudged in the right direction by a fellow mommy blogger, I realised that it wasn’t AS bad as I imagined. I am learning as I go along – googling, YouTube-ing, calling a friend – and it’s been an interesting ride so far.

Some of you may have noticed that change is currently happening to the blog in terms of appearance and content. I have been working really hard on the website over the past couple of days and I must admit that it has been stressful, self motivating and frustrating all at the same time!

DIY-ing your own website is no easy task, especially when you are no fundi in IT. Things like coding and SEO and widgets and product pages totally freak me out! I mean search engine optimization is one of THE most important parts of your website and I know nothing of the topic (eeek!). Thank goodness for WordPressGoogle and YouTube, as I would never had been able to do it without the use of those services.

There are so many parts that are still incomplete which will require a considerable amount of time to figure out. And unfortunately, being a working mom means that there is no time, so I have no choice but to be patient. I keep telling myself that everything takes time, and this is just one that will take a little bit longer than expected.

There are several aspects to DIY-ing your own website that are frustrating (much like that itch on your back that you just cannot reach!), and the following are my top most frustrating aspects at the moment (they change all the time!):

  • Colours (oh the darn colours!!!) –  I can’t seem to figure out how to change the light glaringly bright blueish colour that appears on every page and in every post that is so darn difficult to read/see on-screen. I can scream! (SOS!)
  • A Blog page versus a Home page – which is better? I currently have blog listed on the menu, which will most probably be changed to home, which will then probably be changed back because I could not decide on which was better. (What is it supposed to be?)
  • My online shop – time time time! SO much time is required to create an online shop that portrays the best of your products. (I am totally out of my league here.) There are so many products to list, and that means that they all need pictures. Which comes to my next point.
  • Pictures! – can you hear me screaming? Because let’s be honest, the pictures taken with my iPhone is quite a joke! (SOS – calling all photographers, I need your help)
  • And worst of all, when you have bad wifi reception – everything takes SO much more longer when this happens!

But despite all the many little things that are bothering me and all the hundreds of things that still need to be done, I am so proud of what has been achieved so far. Have you browsed the latest Treatmesweetlie website lately? I think it looks amazing! There are still loads more to do, so please bear with me for the changes you are about to see over the next few days (or weeks perhaps)!

And just in case you are deciding to DIY your own website, here are a few of my top tips to help you get you through it:

  • Be patient
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions 
  • Google everything – the answers are out there. Somewhere someone was trying to do the same thing, they figured it out and was nice enough to post tutorials for people like you and I
  • Make sure you use a service provider that is well-known for allowing and supporting DIY websites – much like WordPress
  • Be patient, unless this is your full-time job, it is not going to happen overnight
  • Stay focused and stick to your plan – it becomes time-consuming and frustrating when you switch between certain packages or plug-ins because you were uncertain of what you were trying to achieve  (start, delete, start another, delete, revert back to the first one – I caught myself out on this one far too many times!). Avoid as far as possible
  • Be patient!
  • Remain confident – techno stuff can be very complicated, but keep believing that you can do anything you place your mind to!

Thank you to all you lovely people for following along with me through my journey of Treatmesweetlie. If you have any suggestions regarding aspects of my website that are just not great, feel free to contact me and let me know. This website is undoubtedly my space, but it is also my space for you to enjoy!

xxx

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WIN with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos (closed)

Win with kids emporium and shooshoos

(Bear with me, I am going to do a little bit of a blog post first before we get into the nitty-gritty of how you can win!)

Win with kids emporium and shooshoos

Not too long ago I spent an inspiring and motivational morning with a room full of amazingly talented women at the Kids Emporium first ever bloggers breakfast. Each and every women in the room had an inspiring and successful story to share, and the most important lesson I learnt from that, was that being you was a success on its own.

Win with Kids Emporium

Lauren De Swardt, the founder and owner of Kids Emporium, shared her success story with us. It was absolutely inspiring and came at a time when I needed it the most. My most recent posts have been themed around how difficult the past several weeks have been for me, where work commitments literally sucked up all of my time like a dry sponge reaching a puddle of water and how being a working mother sucks sometimes. Lauren’s story motivated me to push through the challenging time I found myself in and to remain true to myself and my passion.

Lauren de Swardt and Radhia Sattar

Now I don’t want to bore you with a word for word paraphrase of her story, as there are many articles and interviews you could find on the internet, but I do wish to share two bits of her story that resonated most with me. (I promise to be brief, as I know you are dying to know how you can win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos!)

“Work from home”

Did you know that the Kids Emporium Head Office is run from a loft studio in Lauren’s home?! She explained that her work life balance was an important part of her life and working from home assisted her in achieving this. She even has a recurring meeting booked in her diary, every day at 3pm, for homework time with her kids.

Now that is a dream come true for any working mother – to be able work in an environment that is conducive to being a mother. For many of us, our careers would not allow for us to work from home. And that is okay. As long as we work in an environment where everyone understands the needs of a mother/parent. I may not be able to give up my day job, but I strive to build a relationship with my employer where the needs of a mother can be understood without the sacrifice of any work commitments.

“The sale of my first store was one of my biggest challenges”

She described the sale of her first Franchise store as one of her biggest challenges. It took months of hard work, perseverance and lots of convincing, only to feel as though she should give up at least 100 times because the potential buyer was just not budging. But the sale eventually happened, and now, over 10 years later with more than 20 stores and an online store, she explained how easily a Kids Emporium Franchise store could be sold within a few minutes. Kids Emporium has also recently announced that they will be opening up their doors in the UK soon!

Success clearly does not come easily! This is something I need to remind myself of daily. It takes hard work, determination and perseverance to succeed in anything you put your mind to, and it takes time to build your brand. I may not be the best mother to Ammaarah, or the best wife to Zieyaad, or the best female accountant, or the best mommy blogger, or the best mompreneur, or the best daughter, sister, friend or or or or or the one hundred things we find ourselves doing or wanting to be! But I know that I am best at being me (for myself and my creator).

This is me. This is the life that has been granted to me by the Almighty. And no matter what comes my way, I need to keep reminding myself that as long as I have tried my best, I have succeeded.

How you can win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos

One of the perks of attending this event was the customised Treatmesweetlie specific goodie bag I received. Not only did I receive something for Ammaarah but I also received something that I am able to share with you!

I have been struggling to find shoes for Ammaarah for these awkward-weather autumn days. You know, those days where it is too cold to wear sandals yet too hot to wear boots? Now the fairies who organised this bloggers breakfast must have done their homework, because this gift came at the perfect time – a pink and silver pair of mini moccs from Shooshoos (it’s called the ‘Icing Sugar’)! There is just enough coverage for the warmer days and just enough room to wear with stockings in the colder days. I cannot wait to style them on PP. And if you think these are adorable, you have to visit the Shooshoos online shop, their range is impressively extensive!

Win with Shoosoos

What I love about Shooshoos is that they are proudly South African, competitive in their prices, easily accessible and offer a wide range of cute and trendy leather shoes. Their online size guide makes online shopping that much easier!

And now for the fun part – I get to share some Shooshoos with you too! Kids Emporium and Shooshoos have given you the chance to win a R200 Shooshoos voucher to purchase a pair of shoes from the Shooshoos online shop, and the best part is that delivery in South Africa is free!

All you need to do is follow the 4 simple steps below and you will be entered into the lucky draw to win:

  1. Subscribe to my blog (see on the right side of my web page – remember, this is a two-step process, you have to confirm your subscription via the confirmation link that is sent to your email)
  2. Like/follow Treatmesweetlie on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
  3. Share the link to this article on either Facebook or Twitter by clicking share buttons below
  4. Lastly, be sure to come back to this blog post and comment with the word ‘done’ to confirm your entry to win with Kids Emporium and Shooshoos.

Terms and conditions

  • The prize will be awarded to the first correct entry drawn at random. Failure to follow all the steps will result in disqualification.
  • The winner will be selected at random by me, and will be final. No correspondence will be entered into.
  • Failure to claim the prize within 10 working days after the announcement will result in forfeiture of the prize and the next correct entry drawn will obtain the prize.
  • This competition is open to South Africans only.
  • This competition closes at midnight on Friday, 13 May 2016.

xxx

Radhia

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Lesson learnt from my 17 month old: forgive easily and with no regret 

I captured this picture today while Ammaarah was enjoying the cool sea breeze and fresh air. She was mesmerized by the sound of the waves splashing against the breaker and the sight of the water sprinkling close to her feet.

forgive easily and with no regret
Today was a good day in the land of my motherhood, because I got to spend the majority of it with my little princess. We took her for a walk/ride with her favourite bike along the beach front. Not only did the fresh air take up all of her energy causing her to fall asleep easily and early this evening (definitely doing that again!), but it also allowed me to breathe in something other than work. It was a much needed break, a moment to just stand (while the magnificent sun sets behind you) watching in awe the maraculous development of your child.

I learnt a valuable lesson today, something that I wish to adopt in my every day lifestyle, and that is to forgive easily and with no regret.

After about an hour of my undivided attention to Ammaarah, (no rushing, no stressing, no to-do-list running through my mind, no social media, no nothing other than Ammaarah) she was mine again. The kisses and hugs and screaming my name quickly returned. She forgave me for my absenteeism without such as a whim of any regret. The past several weeks where I felt like a failure as mother was forgotten by her. All she knew was that I was there at that very moment and that was enough.

It was evident that she understood that some parts of life are not easy, which is okay, and that it is not about looking towards the past but looking at the now and at the very moment you find yourself in.

We tend to easily get caught up in our feelings when we have heated arguments with our loved ones, causing us to hold grudges against them for a few days and even sometimes giving them the silent treatment for a few days. After a little while we forget about the moment we find ourselves in, and we chose to look to the past and replay that argument in our minds, causing us to feel more hurt and more upset. I for sure am guilty of that! But why are we doing that? Are we perhaps not missing the point?

Life is short and it is uncertain. I may not have said the words ‘I am sorry for not spending time with you’, but my actions spoke louder than those words and that was enough for her. Perhaps hearing the utterance of the words ‘I am sorry’ is therefore sometimes not needed to forgive.

I hope to remember this moment with PP each and every time I find myself at fault having an argument with my loved ones. May we always take heed of the moments we find ourselves in, and and may we learn to forgive easily and without regret. Because surely our lives will be so much more pleasant if we did that!

xxx

PS. It was slightly chilly today,  but thanks to Pick n Pay Clothing,  PP was kept snugly warm by her hooded sleeveless puffer jacket. It is definitely one of my favourite winter buys thus far!

father and daughter unbreakable bond

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I felt like a failure as a mother

My life has been consumed (in the literal sense) with my work and my career over the past several weeks. I have been working 12 to 14 hours a day and roughly 6 to 7 days a week. In my previous post, I blogged about how being a working mother sucks sometimes and how that has resulted in the deterioration of my relationship with Ammaarah. This morning, sadly, that wound cut even deeper when I felt like a failure as mother.

failure as a mother  
If Ammaarah wakes before our alarm clock has sounded in the morning, we quietly fetch her from her room and bring her to our bed. 90% of the time she falls asleep again, allowing us to snooze for another few minutes. This morning however, Zieyaad left to the bathroom. Ammaarah realised that her father was not there and politely got out of bed. She walked to the bathroom door, shouted ‘daddy’, stood outside of the door and waited for him.

And she waited for him.

She just waited for him to return.

I pleaded with her to come back to the room so that we could play or watch Barney together (she calls any video ‘Barney’ – the cutest!), but she outright refused. She screamed the moment I came close to her which left me with very little choice. I had to leave her be.

My feelings were hurt and my heart broke. It shattered into the most irreparable position ever.

I feel as though I have failed.

As with all of us, I wish to be successful in anything and everything that I am part of and I wish to always better my position in all aspects of my life. I therefore wish and strive to build my career in the corporate world. But how can I justify that when it is my time with my family that is being sacrificed? 

I have been fortunate enough to be chosen to take part in a Women’s Empowerment Workshop. The workshop runs over several months and aims to empower women in the work place. It aims to provide self-reflection on yourself and provide guidance on how you need to empower yourself (spiritually, mentally and physically) in order to succeed in your work place. We are approaching our third month and the most important lesson I have learnt so far is that there has to be a balance in every aspect of your life. The most classic example would be the ‘work life’ balance. The more you give to the one aspect, the more you deprive from the other aspect. One would expect your scale to never be equal, as there will always be priorities on either side that will take preference. But the key is to manage those priorities on both sides so that your scale does not become permanently damaged. (I know, easier said than done, and totally clear in my case!).

So I find myself in a very difficult space, because our deadline at work is looming and I have to deliver. I must deliver. We have been at it for so long now, and the end is in sight, so I cannot give up now. But my little princess dislikes me, and without the luxury of time, how am I meant to fix that?

I have no solution.

All I know is that I need to push through. I am not a failure and I will not give up.

I will learn from this.

I will become stronger.

I will become more resilient.

Ammaarah will love me again.

Part of what keeps me going is the inspirational stories and support I receive from the exceptional women whom form part of my workshop, and the multi-talented women I spent my Saturday morning with at the Kids Emporium Blogger Breakfast over the weekend. Each one of  us were, and are, unique to each other – different careers, different responsibilities, different ages, different races, different family dynamics – but the one common denominator that resonated across all was that we are all consumed by some part of our lives. Some have personal matters, some work matters, some stay-at-home mommy matters, some are juggling between the two or juggling 3 jobs at the same time, and others are expecting their first baby (and we all know how exciting and consuming that journey is!).

Although I have no solution, it is absolutely  comforting knowing that I am not the only or the first (nor the last!) mother/female to go through this exact point in my life. There are many women who have succeeded in building an unbreakable relationship with their family whilst building their career, and we need to support each other so that we can also achieve that. If others can do it, why can’t I? We need to motivate each other, inspire each other and push each other to move just one more step forward, because standing still or moving back is not an option.

So to each and every one of you who find yourself in a difficult position – keep going and push through!  Keep your head raised above the water, keep breathing and keep moving forward. You will learn from this, you will become stronger and you will succeed. 

I know you can do this, you know you can do this, so let’s do it!

xxx

  

Failure as a mother